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3 Things Guys Should Never Do To Get A Date

Early Jackson 2013At 42 I look back on my past behaviors as it relates to dating and shake my head. There’s no cute way to put it, I was definitely a jerk. I shudder at the conversations I left in my wake. This all came back to my remembrance after a recent conversation with three women in an eye glass store. One of the three women was my wife Cherese. We’d wandered into the store just looking for some cool frames and such. As we stood at the counter discussing prices, in walks a guy with shades on. He’s actually significant in this context because we obviously missed our cue to be impressed as he whipped off his glasses in Hollywood fashion. He stood there for a second in the door way, as if to say, “I’m here!” Right out of the gate I’m sure ladies are reading this and can imagine some guy in their past. You remember, He’s the one who knows you should feel privileged he’s even directing his attention your way. So he comes over to the counter in front of the first young lady, takes a seat and boldly asks “I’m sure you remember me right?” To which she responded, “Should I?” This always crushes guy’s feelings. Here’s when I leaned over to my wife and kind of laughed. She knew exactly what was going on. For the next 10 minutes we listened and laughed as he made every feeble attempt to put the moves on this poor lady. He even mentioned the fact that she should really remember him because of his striking height and features. I still don’t know how I managed to keep my lunch down. When he finally left, feeling a bit deflated, I was privy to a high level top secret conversation between women. I mean, some classified stuff. I immediately mentioned my new relationship book, “The Modern Princess,” which outlines three princesses with serious men issues. I asked if they’d break down both what he did wrong and what was going through their heads. As it turns out, his epic fail serves as a great object lesson in the ever confusing interactions of men and women. (1) He walked in but they never met “him”: So I’m learning more and more how important authenticity is to ladies. If you’re looking for more than a flashy line and a few one night stands, those cheesy lines are the pits. It took me well into my twenties to value and appreciate my true self. Ladies, when a man refuses to show you who he really is, he’s obviously hiding something. Anyone can impress within the context of a Vine video, 120 characters or a retouched Facebook photo. But real, lasting relationships are born out of authentic, in-person interaction. (2) He assumed she not only remembered him, but somehow was impressed: Big mistake! A guy that seeks to superficially impress will have issues with long term relationships. I can relate because that was me. Once the shine or newness of the relationship wore off, so did my attention. Impressing is for boys. Men seek to connect on a much deeper level. And please remember ladies, if he has to tell you he’s a ‘boss’, he’s NOT! (3) He tried to connect with her through material things: As she struggled through his advances to make an eye exam appointment, he politely dropped the fact that he drove a luxury car; it wouldn’t be an issue with day appointments because he was the “boss.” He even managed to work in that he lived in an affluent area of the city. When will we learn that a real women isn’t a gold digger, she’s a goal digger? So what we have doesn’t move their hearts anymore. At the end of it all, we parted ways with them looking up my website to order a couple of books and us with a much welcomed laugh. But at the core, all of life is teaching a lesson. In a few moments I was able to look back at my own development and look forward to the cause in which I hope to spread through “Tiara Talk.” I want to cultivate a conversation about relationships, love and all the other B.S. so dating will be safe for my granddaughter. See you at the TOP! Early

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How to Know If You Are Dating the Right Guy

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In recent months I have had a ton of inquiries from ladies looking to invest in relationship coaching. The really interesting thing is these ladies are for the most part single. It is encouraging to know that people are looking to take their relationships to the next level and understand that coaching is an invaluable way to do that. If a professional athlete employs the abilities of a private trainer to gain an edge on the playing field, how much more can we obtain the relationship of our dreams by partnering with experienced and knowledgeable coaches in the industry?

One of the main themes of my conversations with them centers around one question; how do I know I am dating or about to get serious with the “right one?” Well that’s a loaded question and I want to share, from my perspective, a window into my answers.

First, anyone can know when they are connecting to the person they should be by this simple test. Ask yourself, Am I the best “me” when I am with them? In other words, are you feeling the freedom to be your true authentic self when you’re with them? If not, no matter how you shape it up, that’s probably NOT the guy for you.

Here are four (4) easy signs to look for when determining if he is “The One”

1. He knows what you need manifested to experience love: This is a biggie! Back a few years ago Gary Chapman penned an incredible book called The Five Languages of Love to help couples identify their dominant “Love Language.” Ground breaking at its time, this work allowed couples to discuss and dig into which style of love works best for them. Whether gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service or through physical touch, each person has a way they prefer to be loved. If you have someone who refuses to give you what you need, begging won’t bend their heart.

2. Your dreams are nurtured and encouraged: Your voice matters. Anyone that tells you differently is absolutely wrong. The second we are born there is a room full of doctors and nurses waiting to hear your voice. This signifies we are not only “here” but healthy and well. Throughout our childhood, there are several tests administered to ensure we can hear and speak correctly. If you’re in a relationship and he doesn’t value and even encourage you to dream big, you may need to make a change soon. A secure man who knows himself will always be on the side of super sizing his mate’s aspirations. After all, you two reflect each other in so many ways he would want you to be successful and fulfilled too.

3. You guys fight, but you never go to war: Fighting is one thing; war is a totally different reality. You’re supposed to fight. Fighting simply means you two came to a difference of opinions and now you’re trying to find the “middle.” Fighting also means there is a bit of friction in an area that must be addressed properly. It can serve as a spotlight to find potential roadblocks along the way. War however, is about winners and losers. It’s about alienating the other person and plundering their confidence. You DO NOT go to war with someone you love. Period. If he can launch a full scale war against you during a fight, he has shown you how little you mean to him.

4. Your family and friends can see you flourish in the relationship: As you date and grow closer to a person, learn to balance the opinions of trusted family and close friends. I am not saying hang your whole heart on what people are saying, but pay attention to it at least. If everyone is saying this guy is sneaky or a flirt, don’t dismiss it! You can get a very useful baseline of your guy by how others interact with him. Often we have created blind spots because our hearts wants what it wants. Period. But you would be a fool to ignore the warning signs others see who are outside of love’s powerful blinders.

Just like anything else, love and relationships require a learning curve. You can vastly improve your chances for success by adhering to the signs. People say that experience is the best teacher, but I think that’s a lot of B.S. I have learned that experience is an expensive and time consuming teacher. If you are able to learn from someone else’s experiences and grow from them, you have just saved yourself time, energy of plenty of heart aches along your journey to the relationship of your dreams.

 

 

See ya at the top!
Early Jackson

http://www.themodernprincess.org

Love Life Under Construction [With Video]

#ModernPrincessI recently did some promo shooting for my new relationship book, The Modern Princess: A 21st Century Guide To Fairy Tale Relationships. As I met with the production team we settled on a location in our offices that were still being remodeled. The primes was a two part shoot showing both the section under construction and the remodeled portion. I instantly recognized a few vital keys to relationships especially when things seem to be going through a remodeling stage.

Here’s the real deal, we all bring a certain amount of crap and debris with us into any relationship. It’s just a fact of life. Where we have been and who we were connected to play a major role in shaping our belief system about love. That in turn develops our tendencies and affects our current relationships. It is going to take some construction, or as I like to put it, a “process” to really prepare for new love.

I love the word process because I have learned it simply means a series of procedures to produce a finished product. Notice it is a series of things that bring about a finished product. This means anything worth having; any one worth loving must go through their own process to be ready to receive it. That’s the difference between authentic and fake. Authentic things are costly because they’ve endured a process. Now they have lasting power. Things that are authentic can be passed on to grandchildren as heirlooms. But not the cheap stuff!

Being under construction means three (3) things:

  1. You will have to move some things around: You know how it is when you have a space in your home neatly put together, only to discover there are some flooring or pipe issues. So now you have to disturb your little set up and move things around. It totally disrupts your flow. You had it all together, but things beyond your control required you to make moves. In love it is the same way. If you are ever going to connect with someone on a deeper level, it will take you going through some self construction. To those around you it appears you have it all together, but you know there is a lot of work to be done behind the scenes.
  2. It requires time to clean up: Ok you are knee deep into a project only to realize you are making just a big of a mess as the one you’re trying to fix. That’s OK. You are in the process and that can get messy. When you start moving things around in the home, you find dirt and grime you didn’t know you had. So it is in love. You move things around in your heart and there will be piles of junk hiding everywhere. Deal with it. Now is the time to sweep the floors and get some dusting done.
  3. At times, it will inconvenience you and others: When you are remodeling, you may have to use a neighbor’s bathroom or even spend a few nights at a hotel. Its par for the course. So you can expect some inconveniences that go along with remodeling your love life as well. People that used to benefit from your dysfunctions will now have to get their kicks another way. You won’t be available for their junk. Your own heart will even hurt at times. Why? Because you’re used to a certain response from a mate. But remember, if you do what you’ve always done you’re bound to get what you’ve always gotten.

The awesomeness of a remodel is this; once it’s done its time to throw a party. Your real friends, the ones who want to see you progress will be there ready to party at your house warming! People that care always celebrate growth. And once you’re on the other side of the construction you begin to notice you have more room to entertain. Your heart is larger and your capacity to love has magnified. Then you discover you’re looking at your past and future from a brand new perspective. It’s amazing what a splash of paint or new curtains can do for a place. Your love life and friendships take on a new freshness with your recent remodeling.

During the promo shoot, we had a blast brainstorming these cool analogies. We all could think of a time when we went through our own remodeling. For some it was about better business relationships, others it was a divorce or nasty break up. But the common thread was we all had to go through a similar process to come out better. And the good news for you is it may seem tough now, but when it’s over you will have a great cause to celebrate.

See you at the TOP!
Early Jackson

http://www.TheModernPrincess.Org

Making Love Happen

Tiara Talk LogoGreat day empowered peeps!

The ‘Making Love Happen’ Audio Program is AVAILABLE NOW!

In case you missed it, a couple of Thursdays ago I announced the release of the Making Love Happen audio program “Making Love Happen” so that you can watch the recording of our roundtable discussion as often as you would like and at your convenience.

In this high-value, content-rich audio program, I along with the other love experts give you the keys on how to:

making love happen

  • Completely eliminate fear to love again from your life
  • Speak your partner’s love language with ease
  • Open lines of communication for a romantically enhanced relationship
  • Boost your self-esteem and walk into a room with confidence
  • Unveil the joyful and fulfilling life you have always wanted

And much more…

If you’re looking to create an intimate, honorable relationship with someone who adores and loves you for you, then you owe it to yourself to own this audio bundle TODAY.

Read all of the steamy details HERE.

Don’t forget to join the Making Love Happen Discussion Forum on Facebook. Simply go to http://www.facebook.com/groups/MakingLoveHappen/ and request to join the private group. Our love coaches will be there to answer your questions and guide you through the relationship waters successfully. We can’t wait to interact with you there!

No matter what the circumstance or situation, you deserve to love and be loved again. So go right now and purchase your audio set, you’ll be glad you did! Remember, 2014 is the year to invest and cultivate relationships that matter!

….and of course don’t forget to join “The Modern Princess” movement  for empowering information by following this blog, joining us on Twitter and Facebook and more importantly by grabbing your copy of the book!

See you at the TOP!
Early & Cherese

3 Things Guys Do That Drive Women Nuts

3 Things Guys Do That Drive Women NutsAt 42 I look back on my past behaviors as it relates to dating and shake my head. There’s no cute way to put it, I was definitely a jerk. I shudder at the conversations I left in my wake. This all came back to my remembrance after a recent conversation with three women in an eye-glass store.

One of the three women was my wife Cherese. We’d wandered into the store just looking for some cool frames and such. As we stood at the counter discussing prices, in walks a guy with shades on. He’s actually significant in this context because we obviously missed our cue to be impressed as he whipped off his glasses in Hollywood fashion. He stood there for a second in the door way, as if to say, “I’m here!” Right out of the gate I’m sure ladies are reading this and can imagine some guy in their past. You remember, He’s the one who knows you should feel privileged he’s even directing his attention your way.

So he comes over to the counter in front of the first young lady, takes a seat and boldly asks “I’m sure you remember me right?” To which 3 Things Guys Do That Drive Women Nutsshe responded, “Should I?” This always crushes guy’s feelings. Here’s when I leaned over to my wife and kind of laughed. She knew exactly what was going on.

For the next 10 minutes we listened and laughed as he made every feeble attempt to put the moves on this poor lady. He even mentioned the fact that she should really remember him because of his striking height and features. I still don’t know how I managed to keep my lunch down.

When he finally left, feeling a bit deflated, I was privy to a high level top-secret conversation between women. I mean, some classified stuff. I immediately mentioned my new relationship book, “The Modern Princess,” which outlines three princesses with serious men issues. I asked if they’d break down both what he did wrong and what was going through their heads. As it turns out, his epic fail serves as a great object lesson in the ever confusing interactions of men and women.

  1. He walked in but they never met “him”: So I’m learning more and more how important authenticity is to ladies. If you’re looking for more than a flashy line and a few one night stands, those cheesy lines are the pits. It took me well into my twenties to value and appreciate my true self. Ladies, when a man refuses to show you who he really is, he’s obviously hiding something.
  2. He assumed she not only remembered him, but somehow was also impressed: Big mistake! A guy that seeks to superficially impress will have issues with long-term relationships. I can relate because that was me. Once the shine or newness of the relationship wore off, so did my attention. Impressing is for boys. Men seek to connect on a much deeper level.
  3. He tried to connect with her through material things: As she struggled through his advances to make an eye exam appointment, he politely dropped the fact that he drove a luxury car; it wouldn’t be an issue with day appointments because he was the “boss.” He even managed to work in that he lived in an affluent area of the city. When will we learn that a real women isn’t a gold digger, she’s a goal digger? So what we have doesn’t move their hearts anymore.

At the end of it all, we parted ways with them looking up my website to order a couple of books and us with a much welcomed laugh. But at the core, all of life is teaching a lesson. In a few moments I was able to look back at my own development and look forward to the cause in which I hope to spread through “Tiara Talk.” I want to cultivate a conversation about relationships, love and all the other B.S. so dating will be safe for my granddaughter.

See you at the TOP!
Early